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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy is a model of therapy that helps to shift how memories are stored in the brain.  When memories become stored the wrong way, this results in trauma, including PTSD. Such memories cause emotional distress, inaccurate negative beliefs about ourselves, and functional problems in life. This occurs through the use of Bilateral Stimulation (BLS),

usually in the form of eye movements.

During EMDR Reprocessing, the client is asked to hold in mind aspects of a disturbing memory, while also maintaining connection to the safety of the therapist's office in the present moment.  This Dual Attention is thought to allow the disturbing memory to move through aspects of the REM sleep process, which in essence strips the memory of its disturbing emotions, its strong sensory components, and its inaccurate/dysfunctional meanings.

EMDR Therapy is used to resolve traumatic memories, such as those related to sexual, physical, and emotional abuse as well as traumatic events such as car accidents, injuries, illnesses, and exposure to violence. EMDR Therapy also can resolve maladaptive self-referencing beliefs (schemas), phobias, panic, migraine headaches, substance abuse, addictive patterns of behavior, unremitting grief, and shame. It is effective for adults and children.

Learn more about EMDR here.

See testimonials from EMDR clients here

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Dialectical Behavior Therapy was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan and encompasses four modules or groups of coping skills to help clients to develop skills for increasing mindfulness in daily life, decrease the intensity of negative emotions while increasing positive emotions, tolerate situations of extreme emotional intensity to survive crises without making the situation worse and lastly, skills to communicate more effectively to attend to relationships, develop more satisfying relationships and end destructive relationships.  DBT emphasizes a perspective of seeking the balance and middle path in order to avoid extremes including "all or nothing" or "black and white" thinking.



We can further our lives in many amazing through the process of thinking and the language we use to communicate thoughts. We have the ability to look prospectively at a problem, brainstorm a hundred solutions to that problem, pare those solutions down to the two or three that are viable, then even to lay out how each of those solutions might work out. This allows us to select what will likely be the best solution- all within the space of our minds before even lifting a finger. Our thoughts and calculations allowed us to theorize the existence of black holes long before there was even any evidence that such things might exist.

Language is a profound source of beauty and delight in our lives, from poetry to novels to lyrics and even the humorous wordplay of puns.  Yet, one single expression starts to show the limitations of thoughts and language, “a picture is worth a thousand words."  Neither thoughts nor words can explain or express the beauty of a sunset, the feel of a kiss, the love of a child, or that which compels us to do amazing things. Why climb that mountain? Because it's there. Why do I love my wife? Because I do. Why do so many of us invest in spirituality when we cannot prove that God/spirits, etc. exist? Because we have faith. There is so much to our lives and experience that our minds cannot wrap themselves around, leaving us often unable to express verbally what these things mean.

We are often taught to have nearly complete faith in our ability to think and the products of our minds. However, while our minds are terrific things, they do not encompass all of who we are. When we try to channel all of who we are through our minds, it becomes a hopeless endeavor. Minds can produce elegant thoughts and they can also become endless channels of confusion and bewilderment. Think about the expression mad scientist- the idea of scientist who delves so deeply into the mind that he/she somehow gets lost and never returns to flexible connection with reality.

There are many ways that our thoughts and language become things that we find ourselves controlled by rather than reflecting what we value in life. They become barriers rather than constructive, useful tools.

For example, we create language to organize our world and our ideas, but then we start to behave in ways that are consistent with the language rather than our own experience or desires. If I label myself as depressed, then I may find myself feeling self conscious about laughing. If I label myself as a nice person, then maybe I can't set a firm limit with someone because it goes against my label.

I develop the idea that I can control my thoughts, feelings, and experience the way I can control my external world. I use logic to say “once I finish college, things will go smoothly and then I'll start living. Then I complete college and say “once I get a job,” “once I get married,” “once I have a family,” “once I retire,” etc., etc. We can put off living for some magic vent that never happens. Not that events aren't sometimes magical, but these events are not talismans that keep bad things from happening in our lives.

Yet we keep buying into these ideas. When this doesn't work, we start to feel broken. Then we start buying into what Madison Avenue wants us to sell us. When my teeth are whiter, when my car is nicer, when I can download faster, then life will be OK. Yet none of this ever sets things up in a way that life is smooth sailing forever and we never have problems again. Then we feel even more broken. Please don't just take my word for it. Take a moment, put this book down, and reflect for a moment on how these things have played out in your own life. Check this against your own experience.

ACT is about developing a new, more flexible way of living based on what we value.  In ACT, we say that we become stuck, not broken. The problem isn't our lives. It is the fact that the thing we believe is control is not control. Control, as we often understand it, is an illusion. Again, don't just buy this because it is written here, check it all against your own experience.

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In Mindfulness, we say “a miracle is something unexpected that happens.” Imagine being able to find the joy in a drop of water falling off a leaf… the laugh of a small child…a single ray of sunshine…or even the sadness of loss.

Mindfulness helps us work towards developing “fearlessness.”  This is different from how most people might view fearlessness. Traditionally this word means having no fear.  In mindfulness, it means that we can be OK feeling fearful. 

In other words, we can develop the ability to be fearless about experiencing fear…or, for that matter experiencing any other emotion.  Through mindfulness, we expand our willingness to feel emotions like shame, sadness, joy, boredom, anger, impatience, contentment, or anxiousness.

When we learn how to sit with these emotions and any other experience, we can also learn how to experience life in its truest form.  We can develop freedom- freedom to let things be what they are. When we can do this, we don't have to fight with ourselves, our emotions, or our experiences.  This frees us up to be genuine and present.

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Schema Therapy focuses on the way in which unmet childhood needs influenced the way in which a person views themself as well as the world around them and caused the person to interpret and relate to the world in certain ways.  These ways of coping and relating to their environment become deeply ingrained in the person and ultimately outlive their usefulness, leading to pervasive patterns of self-defeating thoughts, emotions and behaviors.  Schema Therapy aims to assist clients in building insight into these belief systems and patterned ways of coping and behaving and work to tap into their Healthy Adult perspective and behaviors and in trying out new skills and behaviors, the client works to more effectively get their needs met.